This Beautiful Inheritance: All You Need Is Love.... plus more

Monday, March 7, 2011

All You Need Is Love.... plus more

I found if rather ironic that this month for Little Rock Family I did a feature on Marriage Maintenance. Because it's something I've been thinking about a lot lately anyway.

My marriage is not perfect. In fact, it's not even close. But I have a PASSION for marriage-- for mine and for yours too.

Today, when couples pledge "'Til death do us part," what they're really saying is, "'Til it gets hard. Or he's not hot anymore. Or I find someone who shows me more respect. Or we grow apart."

Sadly, the marriage vows today mean virtually nothing. They're full of good intentions, with no real, lasting commitment.

Recently, I saw a page in my hometown newspaper with pictures of some senior athletes who were being honored. They were all standing there with their families, and out of the 12 pictured, ONE was standing with a married mom and dad. ONE out of TWELVE.

I'm not going to take the time to look up and post all the statistics about what divorce does to children. The research is out there I promise. But chances are, if you're reading this, you or someone in your family has been impacted by divorce, and you already know the consequences first hand.

But marriage is hard, you say. People change. How can anyone be expected to stay together for a lifetime?

OF COURSE marriage is hard. Nothing worth anything is easy. But God knew what He was doing when He created marriage and families. And HE can give you the strength to make it last.

Ok, I can't resist. Here are a few stats about how staying married benefits the children (according to Family Research Council).

A 2002 study found that, compared to children with married parents, children with divorced parents are more likely to have behavior problems, such as aggression or acting-out.

Compared to children raised by widowed mothers, children from divorced single-mother homes are significantly less likely to complete high school and to attend or to graduate from college, according to a 2000 study.

A 2003 study found that compared to persons from intact families, those who experienced parental divorce are one-and-a-half times more likely to use illegal drugs by age 14 and more likely to use illicit drugs at any age.

A 2004 study found that young women who experience parental divorce are twice as likely to cohabit before marriage and to have a child out of wedlock, when compared to those raised by their married biological parents.

Oh, and there are so many more.

But even more than all this, I believe that as Christians, the main reason to keep our marriages in tact is because they are supposed to reflect Christ and the Church (Eph. 5:22-23). Our marriages are supposed to be an earthly representation of our union with Christ. If the world sees only marriages that break apart when problems arise, why would they want a relationship with our Lord?

Obviously marriage is hard. Over the course of a lifetime, your feelings may come and go. But your commitment should not. Think of all you've done and how committed to you Christ has stayed anyway.

Daily purpose in your heart to be like Him, and watch your marriage lasts "'Til death do us part."


  1. Love it! So true. It breaks my heart these days when Kids have to go through that, and Not just them, But the Mom and Dad! Your Right, It's NEVER easy, But that is how you learn and Grow closer to eachother! It takes time put in to a good marriage! Not just, I'm done b/c You like to complain. Im so glad you posted this. So many ppl need to read it! God Brought you together, Let him Work in your Marriage and he will not Fail you! :)

    Love your picture at the end!

  2. I took a class in college and the stats just blow your mind. It is unbelievable to sit and listen to how our world feels about marriage. It is tough but God will only give you what you can handle! Great post and AWESOME picture Kelcie!!! You are so beautiful inside and out!

  3. What a great post! It is so very frustrating to hear the views on divorce and how carelessly the world treats it. I wish that more people valued the institution of marriage! It is hard work but is such a wonderful experience! Thanks so much for sharing!

  4. So true. I've never thought about it in the way of marriage being our union with Christ...that puts it in a whole new perspective.


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