This Beautiful Inheritance: Discipline is a Doozie

Saturday, May 7, 2011

Discipline is a Doozie

Before I became a mom, I watched little kids scream and cry and make a scene in Wal-Mart because they didn't get the water gun they wanted... and I swore my kids would never be like that.

I, of course, would be a much more stern, in-control mother, whose kids were well behaved in public because they knew if they weren't.... they would deal with The Almighty Spanking. (Just spank that kid, woman!)

But then... I became a mom.

And that sweet, innocent newborn became an independent, personality-filled toddler.

One who, let me tell you, LAUGHS at spankings.

Lately, I have really been struggling with how to discipline Eden. She is 19 months old, and most of the time, she is a sweetheart. But, oh, there is that blessed rebellious streak in her (and most toddlers, probably) that just wants to see how much she can get away with.

One of her favorite "No No's" is climbing on top of the coffee table. She knows it's wrong, but she still does it CONSTANTLY. The other day, after I had gotten her down and told her "No!" about three times... she did it again. I knelt down to her level, looked her in the eye (I watch "Supernanny" sometimes), sternly said "No Eden!," and swatted her little leg! (Sorry, Supernanny)

Do you want to know what Eden did? ...Cry? Bawl? Melt down?

Um, no.

She said, "Hi Mama!" then smiled and gave me a big hug.

Excuse me?

I'm at a loss with this discipline thing.

Another thing Eden is always getting in trouble for is throwing her food on the floor during mealtime. I know this is a common behavior among toddlers, but I still haven't figured out how to deal with it.

She thinks it is just sooo funny to throw her food and waste it or, usually, to throw it to Barnaby (the dog).



But the best worst part? While she's doing this unapproved behavior, she yells, "NOOO!!!!" because she knows it is wrong.

Actual photo of the word "NO" coming out of her mouth.
Ugh.

I try everything I can think of. I swat her hands and her legs, and she quite literally laughs. I have even left red marks on her (which made me feel like the worst. mom. ever.), and she still thought it was funny.

We've even tried "time-out." There is no way Eden would stay put in any chair or corner, so a couple of times my husband has put Eden in her crib and told her she was in "time-out." ...Her response?

Playing and laughter.

We fail.

(It's obviously just a matter of time til she throws that fit for a water gun in Wal-Mart.)

1 comment:

  1. Well, I know I'm her Mimi, but...It's not like she's hitting or being mean, right? Lol Seriously though, as she gets a little older, she will be easier to discipline. Audrey was VERY strong willed and so hard to know how to discipline! But, eventually we figured her out, and she never threw those fits you were talking about, so maybe there's hope!

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