Note: This month's "Small Town Life" post, which normally would have posted today, has been moved to Monday, April 29. And yes, I am STILL talking about MomLife Bootcamp!
Another aspect of Dannah Gresh's talks at MomLife was the importance of family. And I'm not talking about the "Modern Family." I'm talking about the traditional family. (cue the political incorrectness!) Our society does not value family. It just doesn't. Building a healthy, stable, two-parent home with children is not a goal people work toward.
"... in the last days there will be very difficult times. For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred..." 2 Timothy 3:1-2
Doesn't this sound like today? There are many prophetic passages in the Word of God that perfectly depict our modern world... our world tells young people: go to college! get a good job! make a lot of money! don't settle down! you don't need a husband (or wife)! children? why would you give up your freedom for those?!
But the Bible has a very different message:
"Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth." Proverbs 5:18
"The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord." Proverbs 18:22
"Didn't the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union." Malachi 2:15
"Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him. Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior's hands. How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them!" Psalm 127:3-5
But in a culture dead-set on training our children to be anything but family-oriented, how can we ensure they develop a heart for family as strong as God's? First of all, we need to start instilling it in them young! In her talk, Dannah told how she once dressed her 5-year-old little girl in her wedding dress. When I first heard that -- I'll be honest -- I laughed. I thought it sounded silly. But Dannah explained that she was trying to encourage her young daughter to envision her future. She wanted her to start, at an early age, dreaming about her future husband and her role as a wife.
We always hear parents ask their kids what they want to be when they grow up and tell them "you can be anything you want!" -- a doctor, a lawyer, a teacher. Why not start telling our kids they can have the greatest job in the entire world -- they can be a mom or a dad! And that's not just a cliché. Lately I have realized that as parents, we truly are shaping people, world-changers, witnesses for Christ, and future moms and dads. What could possibly be greater?
As the mom of a 3 and 1-year-old, I used to think I had plenty of time before teaching about marriage, relationships and romantic love. But now I realize this is the time to start. Dannah suggested even taking our kids outside and showing them the parts of a flower (representative of all creation) and how it takes both the pistil and the stamen to reproduce. We want kids to appreciate early God's creation and His design for relationships.
Instilling this Biblical worldview of families and relationships is very counter-cultural. And again, it will take much intentionality to pull off. But with God's help, we can do it. I am praying and believing that my children, and yours, will grow up to be God-fearing, marriage-loving, gender-embracing moms and dads with hearts for family as big as their Lord's.
Coming Soon: At the end of my "MomLife" series, I have an amazing offer to give you! Stay tuned!