Does scrolling through Facebook ever make you feel like your life is less than? Everyone else’s kids are smiling, wearing matching ruffled pants and baking Pinterest treats. And yours are playing in the toilet and pulling each other’s hair out.
I know how you feel. Mine are often doing the same. But like everyone else, I tend to capture and share the pretty moments. Because God forbid we let anyone in on the fact that our lives aren’t fairy tale perfect.
So here’s what you don’t know about me. There’s more going on than what’s Facebooked and Instagrammed. Not mentioned in that status about date night with my husband was the fight we had earlier that morning. Also omitted was the longing inside me for the connection that other couples seem to have – one that’s deep and spiritual and doesn’t argue over petty things. But then, that assumption is based mostly on their Facebook lives and not substantial evidence, so there’s a good chance they feel the same about me.
(Also… those matching boutique outfits my girls are wearing – my mom bought them. Totally not in my budget.)
So let’s just be real for a moment.
Sometimes I cry. Because motherhood is hard and often feels lonely, and how am I supposed to get this right? And we don’t have enough money for the things that we
want, and my husband is overworked and stressed and depressed and nothing I do
makes it better…
Life is hard. But I’m inclined to believe maybe it was supposed to be this way.
“We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.” Romans 5:3-4
Our problems are ordained to make us holy. So why do we resist and try to hide them?
Whatever the reason is that we put our best foot forward in public doesn’t really stand up against the Biblical model for how we are to relate to each other.
“For the more we suffer for Christ, the more God will shower us with his comfort through Christ. Even when we are weighed down with troubles, it is for your comfort and salvation! For when we ourselves are comforted, we will certainly comfort you. Then you can patiently endure the same things we suffer. We are confident that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in the comfort God gives us.” 2 Cor. 1:5-7How will we share with others the comfort God has given us if we’re too embarrassed to share the trials at all?
Of course there’s a place for privacy and discretion about the things we share with the world. And I’ll continue to aim for that balance. But let this post serve as a formal notice that with every happy face I put forth online, there was a hard road walked to get there.
And you, my friend, are not alone in your not-so-fairytale life.
And it’s perfectly ok.
This post was the first in my new series "It's Okay If..." which is running on Tuesdays in May. This series is a partnership with my friend, Amanda Farris, whose topic today is "It's Okay If You Don't Have What Your Grandparents Have -- Right Now." Go check out her post and show her some love!