This Beautiful Inheritance: Learning to Win or Lose

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Learning to Win or Lose

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How do your kids handle losing? Are you one of those parents who lets your kids win? Or do you give it all you've got in a game of Uno? I'll be honest -- I don't let my kids win. I don't think I have once. I want them to learn from an early age sometimes you win and sometimes you lose and that's ok! However, apparently my best efforts have fallen short because my kids are still pretty pitiful losers!

Selah has recently gotten really into playing "Candyland." I usually oblige her because it's an easy way to spend time with her that doesn't require much mental energy or imagination on my part. The games are enjoyable until she realizes Mama may reach "King's Candy Castle" before her. If I do, I brace myself. She may scream; she may throw the spinner; she will definitely cry. No matter what -- it doesn't end well.


That's why I was so thankful to get the book Win or Lose, I Love You by Lysa TerKeurst. This adorable book features playmates Lulu and Max who head into the woods to host a "field day competition" with their animal friends. Everyone is having a great time until Goosey loses the costume contest and Coyote loses the obstacle course. When Coyote throws over the pie table and destroys the yummy pies, everyone gets a clear example of a sore loser. Of course, Coyote later apologizes and his friends forgive him. But the lesson is learned. "Sometimes you'll lose. Other times you'll win. What matters most is how you treat your friends."



I can't say this book has solved all our sore loser problems, but it has helped. When I see Selah's arms cross and her start to simmer, I remind her of Coyote and how no one likes to play with a sore loser. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't, but she always stops to think. I still have hope though because I can tell as Eden has gotten older, she has learned to better handle losing. So hopefully by time Selah is her age, she will too.

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5 comments:

  1. We have this problem big time in our house! I wish I had the answer to how we solve the sore loser problem but we are still working our way through this tough life lesson.

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  2. One of my kids has this problem big time and one doesn't. It breaks my heart to see one giving in so the other can win. I have really been working with her on not being a sore loser. It's been a hard road with that one :-)

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  3. One of my kids has this problem big time and one doesn't. It breaks my heart to see one giving in so the other can win. I have really been working with her on not being a sore loser. It's been a hard road with that one :-)

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  4. One of my kids has this problem big time and one doesn't. It breaks my heart to see one giving in so the other can win. I have really been working with her on not being a sore loser. It's been a hard road with that one :-)

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  5. Sounds like a cute book! Would it be appropriate for 3 and 4 yos?

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