This Beautiful Inheritance: What Our Christmas Card Didn't Say

Friday, December 18, 2015

What Our Christmas Card Didn't Say

I'll admit -- I thought our Christmas cards were cute this year. But they should have been; they were a little pricey too. For that reason, I only sent out 25. So if you didn't get a card, I'm sorry! I literally sent them to family... and to people who sent them to us!


I love sending and receiving Christmas cards. They're trendy and well designed with picture perfect family photos. They send a message, don't they? The message is typically -- "We're happy. We have it all together."

I love my Christmas cards this year, but at the same time, I can't help but look at them and think what a farce that message is. We do not have it all together. We are not always happy.

"Sending warm wishes this season" our card says on the back. It says nothing about what a difficult season it's been for us. When we lean our heads in together and say cheese, you can't see the tension between us. We smile big to make sure it doesn't show.

Not pictured in our happy family photo of four is the little guy who's been in our house for nearly three months. Partially because he wasn't with us at the time we snapped the photo and partially because I didn't know if it was appropriate or not. I question a lot of things lately. How to answer people's questions, whether to smile or show distress, how much to disclose...

Also not pictured is the little nugget in my belly whom we've barely acknowledged because we're too overwhelmed. Not pictured is the $400 lab work bill laying on my counter I'm trying to ignore in hopes it will go away. Not pictured are the harsh words that have been hurled across our house at each other.

We are broken, imperfect people who simply know how to smile pretty and choose a good Instagram filter. That's it. We have nothing "more together" than you. However, we also have a Savior who redeems all the broken, messy pieces of us and makes us perfect through Him. There's a chalk board in my living room where I wrote "Jesus is the Reason for the Season." This Christmas season has been different than I expected, but looking at my own handwriting, I'm reminded it's ok. Because this season isn't about how many perfectly wrapped presents are under the tree (right now, there's zero. I hope to get started soon). It's not about how clean and well decorated my house is (thank goodness) or even how well we are keeping up with our Advent devotions (because we are way behind). It's about Him. This broken, messy life is exactly why He came and what He wants to enter into, if we'll let Him. I need to do a better job of inviting Him into the messy moments and thanking Him for already making us whole, 2,000 years ago.

If you see my Christmas card this year, I hope you won't think, "What a perfect family!" Feel free to admire the card design or the girls' hair bows, but then stop and think to yourself that there's more than meets the eye. And also shuck the burden of presenting yourself as the perfect family. Because though the Christmas card you sent me was adorable, I know better too.

Merry Christmas,
from our imperfect family to yours.

21 comments:

  1. This may be your best post ever, or maybe I just needed it today. Either way...THANK YOU for sharing and may your family have A VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!

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    1. Thank you so much, Tania. Merry Christmas to your family as well!!

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  2. Great Post! We've been working on our Christmas letter and put some raw things in it. I thought about editing those out--- but not anymore! Way to encourage me to be "real"! I'll get you one in the mail! It might not come until January though! We are behind! lol It might be a New Years Letter instead of a Christmas :)

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  3. I think you may be surprised just how much this ministers to people. Thanks for taking a chance, and being real. Love you.

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  4. You put on such a smile that one wouldn't guess you have struggles too. I love this post it's a great reminder that what we see of people online or in short moments barely scratches the surface. Also it helps to see that maybe my struggles are not just me, I'm not alone in having a hard time. Merry Christmas to your beautiful family and I will say an extra prayer for you.

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    1. That's exactly why I wanted to write this. Thank you for reading!

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  5. You put on such a smile that one wouldn't guess you have struggles too. I love this post it's a great reminder that what we see of people online or in short moments barely scratches the surface. Also it helps to see that maybe my struggles are not just me, I'm not alone in having a hard time. Merry Christmas to your beautiful family and I will say an extra prayer for you.

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  6. Touch my little heart who has also had a lot of trials and tribulations during this holiday season. Not many things get to me but this one sure hit home. Thank you!! -Morgan S

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    1. That means a lot Morgan. Thanks so much for reading. No, you're not alone!

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  7. I absolutely identify with the post ! We post fun and happy pictures but not those moments in between when the kids are arguing about who had the coloring book first or why we are having peanut butter and jelly for the third day in a row! I love you and your family in all its goodness, imperfectness, and transparency. I am always blessed by your words and I love you!

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    1. I love you and your imperfect family too! :)

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  8. This speaks to me so much because when I looks at pictures like this, family's like yours, I think, "How nice it must be to be so perfect and have it all together." Makes me feel inferior, low class, etc, and jealous to be honest. All the while having no idea how much we are alike, the craziness behind the scenes, the heartaches we go through. I will never again look at a picture like this and feel the same way. Thanks for your honesty Kelcie!

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    1. Oh wow... glad I pulled back the curtains for you! Lots and lots of imperfections here. You should never feel that way! Thank you so much for reading and sharing.

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  9. I love this! Always been a beautiful family. Such God loving people. And congrats on the new nugget :)

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  10. You and I are going to have an amazing testimony in about two years.... leaning on the everlasting arms.

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  11. Beautifully said. And I hear you, girl. Right in the muck and brokenness beside you. ❤️

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